1st sightings in Continental Europe!



the book has made it to La Belle France!

Heather sent us glorious photographs (and boy, aren’t those glorious? – Tres Chic!).

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thank you dear Heather!

and further into Continental Europe we had a virtual congratulatory wave from Beautycalypse who lives in Berlin (but is originally from much further East in Russia – isn’t that amazing) – the book reached her in its Virtual “ebook” form – so there’s no picture to show but we whipped up a visual of her Very Nice Quote.

HTSSIACWbeautycalypsepraisethis is so very moving, hearing from people all over the world as the book in its various forms (cloned at last!), encased in brown paper and string is brought up the garden path to the kitchen door by the Postman (clearly that’s in our imagination, mr. amazon goes in for the firm corrugated cardboard option, no string, but we do recommend adding a Ribbon to your copy, it likes that).


and now, in hono(u)r of our Friends on the Continent, a little musical interlude.

lie back on those pillows, pull on the satin mask over the eyes, sink into her voice and turn it up LOUD.

#howtostaysaneinacrazyworld hanging from a Chandelier somewhere in the glittering canyons of manhattan.


our lovely friend Donna sent us a Sighting of the book swinging from a Chandelier!

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and to make it Even more delicious – there’s a Video Too!



we Do have really g l a m o r o u s  friends.


more sightings please!



proper stationery shops in venice, the 1st video review from san francisco and a Sighting at The Essex Street Pleasure Gardens of #howtostaysaneinacrazyworld

oh, darlings, look!


a Sighting of the book at William’s house in Whitstable!IMG_4907

we’re ever so excited because the book was Hoping to see the newly dug and laid out The Essex Street Pleasure Gardens (therein).

doesn’t it look at Home?

talking of at home – an elegant home is never without a goodly supply of chic stationery.

and we just happened to have written about such a place…….today, in fact. 


as you know who-we-are-in-RL goes to some very chic dinner parties – including This one with the British Government Minister.

which is where we met Kattie Kotok in fact (take another look at the picture – bottom right – lovely flame orange cashmere scarf).

we nudged who-we-are-in-RL at the dinner party and said, “There’s someone you must interview for Los Angeles, I’m Yours, Where Shall We Meet column!”

and so she did.

isn’t that delicious?

talking of writing – who-we-are-in-RL had a piece published in SimplyWoman.com today – very nice – especially now we’re on the Other side of burnout.

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well that’s lovely.

but not Quite as lovely as the The Essex Street Pleasure Gardens.

and that woman in pearls waving (who is that?)


more sightings please!

we hear that Copies are En Route to South Africa, New Zealand and France!

isn’t this all jolly exciting?

thanks to William for Today’s Sighting.


before you dash off – here’s Mr. Lanier Smith in San Francisco doing our first Video review (hope you can see this outside the USA too?)

we are feeling deeply international.



your book is a bonbon….and other delicious things people are saying about #howtostaysaneinacrazyworld

oh darlings

look at what the lovely Ms Vickie Lester said about the book!



and there was a 1st Sighting in Whitstable which was Very Exciting.


we are hoping for a weekend sighting at the essex pleasure gardens on the newly laid patio and shall report back.

AND there was an Electronic Sighting in BERLIN! Thanks ever so much to Ms. Beautycalypse for her kindness.

berlinbeautycalypsecan you see the original postcard on this Deeply Creative desk at the Atelier of the divinely talented photographer Mr. Martyn Thompson?

and here are two quotes from other wonderful Readers (and we didn’t ask permission to quote from Private Emails so they’re remaining behind the large cloak and Venetian masks….unless they’re reading this and would Like to be Named, which would be utterly delicious).

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isn’t this FUN?!

we think so.


thank you ever so much for sharing the joy.



talk radio tales and other musings.


who-we-are-in-RL did her THIRD Talk Radio Show!

this time with Mr. David Essel.

(our bit starts at 29 minutes if you’re wondering when the British accent might come on)

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it was So much fun!

as you know, we’re Rather languid & European, so the Upbeat nature of American Talk Radio has been a surprise to the psyche but we’ve done our best.

of course we didn’t want to freak out the Host, the lovely Mr. David Essel (such rich modular tones!) but, as always, and not just because it’s the most Soundproof of the (not many) rooms at teamgloria towers, we did conduct the interview via the princess phone while lying back on the many pillows:


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and the 2nd one, in fact (isn’t it lovely that one can do Live Radio from one’s boudoir?)

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so what’s next?

we’re really not sure.

things change on a daily basis over here.

we Do know that a copy of our book has made it to the Materials Received Desk of the BBC – so do send all your *crossed_fingers* and Urgent hopes that we might get on the airwaves of this splendid show.

always a little “awkward” when talking to the British Press you see – because who-we-are-in-RL has to tiptoe around the subject of Why I left the UK*

*the British aren’t awfully keen on those who have Gone Hollywood.

not sure we’ve gone hollywood (although we do like to visit the Arclight Cinema on occasion) as no “work” has been done on the face (or elsewhere) and who-we-are-in-RL doesn’t even “color” her hair (shocking, but true – did you know they call such hair “virgin hair”? not sure we’d go that far – it’s a bob that’s been around if you know what we mean).

while we wait for the Publisher’s Publicity Department on the Other Coast to let us know what we’re to do Next, we *squeal* greatly as the “texts” and emails pour in as copies of the book land on people’s welcome mats. MT

and then have an extensive (but ultimately healing) sobbing session while driving down olympic boulevard (of course we can drive and cry – everyone learns how to in L.A) when we get messages like this from People we’ve never met but took the trouble to buy the book and felt comforted

I received your book How to Stay Sane in a Crazy World this afternoon from my Best Friend and finished it shortly thereafter. I couldn’t put it down. I have been on Medical Leave for almost two months and was able to relate all too well. Thank you for enlightening me and allowing me to view life as it should be.

and there are those Delicious Readers (hello, readers!) who buy Extra Copies (highly encouraged!) to give to friends who might also find it helpful.

Your lovely book almost made me cry (in a good way) and I have two friends who would love it, too. Because I am such a good friend, I will be putting a copy in their hands. :) (thank you silverscreenings!)


isn’t that Lovely to make a difference in someone’s life or at least a pretty addition to their bookshelf or Gift-Giving parcel choices?

you know how we’ll know the book has become truly widespread?

the first stoop sale (NYC) or boot sale for the Brits or Yard sale (California) that has much loved but not-needed-anymore copies carefully stacked on a Trestle table (we adore a trestle table).

shouldn’t be too long now – we’re already discounted on ebay

Some people might look askance at seeing their hard work in a box abandoned to the Fates on a sunday afternoon in north hollywood – not us – we Understand that not everyone can Afford full price books – and so jumble sales and much used bookshops and Oxfam and the like are how many (lovely, kind, hard-working, just broke) people build their first bookshelf in their humble bedroom with the purple (self-chosen) heavily patterned 1970s wallpaper and the soft focus ballet dancer Poster from Athena.

just saying.

beach pillows, daisies on the lawn, mr. colin farrell and ms. anjelica huston (not together but seen on the same day)

hello darlings

oh how Lovely – a SATURDAY!

now what can we tell you about Yesterday?

let’s see:

at a local cafe in Venice, California (called Local, rather confusingly although we guess Not if you really are Local), we saw a lovely bag and struck up a conversation with the owner (of the bag, not the cafe, he was very busy) and found out it was Emily Best and she’s deeply involved in the movie-making-artistry-world and we might well have to interview her for Where Shall We Meet at a not-too-distant date in the future.


then we drifted (purposefully) down Abbot Kinney to take photographs for this week’s WSWM – no, not at this lovely beach pillow emporia – you’ll have to wait until wednesday to find out…….OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERA


then, not far away (probably about a 15 minute drive if the traffic is good and if you find out when That is, do let us know)OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERA

we saw a field of daisies. OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERA

and – *lookstocameraforhelp* – cherry blossom? or some other pretty planting of spring anyway. OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERA

then we just Happened to be rather near a Barnes & Noble (this one in fact) and we persuaded who-we-are-in-RL to pop in (even though she’s rather Overwhelmed by the whole experience surrounding the book so we are Treading gently).

while she wasn’t looking we did a Search on the Terminal (how clever) and found out Where the book lived in this part of the bookshop planet. OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERA


yes, we popped a copy here.

don’t tell anyone.

and then we met Gretchen who is very nice and works at this particular Barnes & Noble (very near the self-improvement section, yes, on the top floor – sort of cerebral and high in altitude – not Gretchen, per se, but the books).

we got talking (because we talked to Everyone) and we just Happened to Mention that we had written this particular book and suddenly there was a PEN and a requirement to Autograph and a copy was about to be placed on the Autographed by the Author Table (we didn’t take a picture because Gretchen was searching for the Stickers that say AUTOGRAPHED BY THE AUTHOR before she placed it on the table you see).

so we grinned all the way down the down escalator and into the early evening.

we had Plans at 19:30 hours (7.30PM for you Americans) and so we had some time to fill and we spotted a lovely neon-lit cinema nearby. OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERA

we chose Winter’s Tale but – confusingly – it was NOT by Mr. Shakespeare but seemingly by Mills & Boon but Mr. Colin Farrell was awfully Dashing in it (we stifled a giggle when he rode an actual White Charger).

after that?

well, let’s see.

we went to hear Ms. Angelica Huston talk about her life and work and memories and see clips and it was ever so delicious!OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERA

that’s Mr. Joe Morgenstern on the left, he writes for the Los Angeles Times and asks Very Good Questions.

do you see the DVDs around them?

that’s because it was at Vidiots – and was actually Postponed from an earlier date which we wrote about for Los Angeles, I’m Yours if you recall (if not, we’d like to be helpful and here’s the link)


that was a busy Friday after a very busy Book Launched Week.

we’re taking it slow today – mostly sleeping, making nutritious food (on the good Conran white plates with proper silverware) – reading helpful books – watching British movies (more on that tomorrow perhaps).


and more reading.

we’ve had a Rather busy life, in fact, not just a busy week.

and took a moment today to look back at 2009, when we started coming up with the tips from the central section of our modern book of hours – the stuff that might help You get through that part of the day where one is Working or perhaps – like who-we-are-in-RL on stage at some conference……(can’t quite recall our fellow Panelists but one was from Playboy and the other from Vogue): march3rd2009

YES! that’s what it looks like when who-we-are-in-RL is *thinking* about the future book which will come out in 5 years after this shot. OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERA

oh look at the era of the iPod (bottom right) – you can date it to 2009 from that alone…

this is who-we-are-in-RL at one of the offices she had while working in Manhattan (there were about 4 over a period of 7 years you see).

this office is VERY SPECIAL.

in the 1960s it belonged to Carrie Donovan.


and we were pretty convinced she still inhabited the office when who-we-are-in-RL inherited it too.

funny how that happens.

when you need a guiding hand, the right person (dead or alive, in book form or some other ethereal-ness) often just Shows Up at Exactly the right moment.

well, that’s our experience anyway.

have a beautiful saturday wherever you are.

see you sunday.

back here?


a ferris wheel, screenwriter heaven and #howtostaysaneinacrazyworld sightings!


we’re awfully late to accompany who-we-are-in-RL on her work day so here’s just a few snapshots from yesterday!

OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERAspring had arrived in santa monica (although this is the land that summer never leaves so it’s sort of a moot point – but the flowers were Very Pretty).

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yes, of course, we rode it!

this is the View from the top overlooking Santa Monica Pier. OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERA

we stayed near the ocean until it got late (to avoid the traffic).

in other news….there have been Many Sightings of How To Stay Sane In A Crazy World which is Terribly Exciting!

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HURRAH! first British Sighting!

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and we’ve already had Lovely Notes from Portugal saying “It’s a little gem!” (thank you, dad ;-)

while Friends in Manhattan sent very kind texts saying “I adore it!” (don’t you love those three little words?)

what else can we tell you?

oh yes!

after a gorgeous afternoon-into the evening we went to Screenwriter Heaven to hear Lindsay Doran speak at the Writers Guild about movies and story and magic.

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the author returns home a little wan and ready for something on a tray.

hello darlings

Author Here.


we made a little movie.

will you Indulge us?

did you like it?

it took HOURS (so deceptive, just sixty seconds of actual completed footage, you have No Idea – or maybe you’re as obsessive compulsive about your Tasks too and so you Do).

yesterday was an Overwhelmingly good experience.

thank goodness there were all the attributes that we need in order to feel balanced again.


actually several.

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a nice english porcelain tea service.
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we had a lovely day of driving to Century City and interviewing someone special for a Where Shall We Meet (here’s this week’s one before we Forget) then getting back-into-the-perfectly-prius to drive all the way Downtown to wait (at the Biltmore, above) until a parcel we needed to pick up was Prepared (it’s all to do with something exciting that who-we-are-in-RL is writing for ELLE China if you can imagine That) and then back-into-the-car again (this being Los Angeles) and stopping at the Grove to admire the Twinkle lights…OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERAand wait for our good friend Richard…OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERAvery near the Fountain


and then *blushing_furiously* go inside Barnes & Noble to visit the lovely freshly launched book.

by that time we were Rather Exhausted and so, like the Master, Mr. Noel Coward, we drove (again) home for something on a Tray.

Something on a Tray

by Noël Coward

Advancing years may bring about
A rather sweet nostalgia
In spite of rheumatism and gout
And, certainly, neuralgia.
And so, when we have churned our way
Through luncheon and a matinée,
We gratefully to bed retire
To rest our aching, creaking vertebrae
And have a little something on a tray.

Some ageing ladies with a groan
Renounce all beauty lotions,
They dab their brows with eau-de-Cologne
And turn to their devotions,
We face the process of decay
Attired in a négligé
And with hot bottles at our toes
We cosily in bed repose
Enjoying, in a rather languid way,
A little ‘eggy’ something on a tray.

Advancing years that many dread
Still have their compensations,
We turn when youth and passion have fled
To more sedate sensations,
And when we’ve fought our weary way
Through some exhausting social day
We thankfully to bed retire
With pleasant book and crackling fire
And, like Salome in a bygone day,
Enjoy a little something on a tray.

When weary from the fray
Something on a tray
Sends weariness away,
Something on a tray,
Thank God, thank God we say,
For something on a tray.

it’s Rather fun being an Author.

we highly recommend it, darlings.

it’s here! Publication Date: #howtostaysaneinacrazyworld

oh, darlings

we cannot stop smiling.

14a06aa898ab11e39b8f0ebc2702080c_8we smiled up at the sky while taking a small constitutional around the quiet early morning streets of los angeles after the morning coffee, saying hello to the small dogs on leash/lead/ribbon (it happens here) also taking their walks (with their owners whose names we always forget which is terrible but oh-so-English to recall the what the canine is called)

and we’ll be smiling All Day.

isn’t life delicious?




The past is a foreign country: they do things differently there


who-we-are-in-RL was on the Radio today (and we see that’s there another Broadcast in the wee small hours of the morning in case you missed it).

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we did not Catch the Show because we had driven all the way to the Pacific Ocean and along the coastal road and turned right up Topanga Canyon and, shortly after, emerged at our destination to accompany who-we-are-in-RL as she was Doing Some Digital Consulting today (and most enjoyable it was too).

but we know that Other people caught it because….



we had a Massive Spike in traffic according to Mr. WordPress.

hello (new) darlings!

now we are Completely aware that someone who heard who-we-are-in-RL who then Visits us here might be a tiny-bit-confused.

we understand that.

but this is where we get to be the nicest side of our good (selves) ness and so can Make it out there in the world.

so welcome.

we’re glad you dropped in.


we’ve been pasting everything (well, a selection of everything) into the current Scrapbok – because we adore scrapbooking.

it’s a way to leave behind what one doesn’t need anymore (but is awfully grateful it happened because nothing is wasted – and most of it is Material anyway, love) and also Acknowledge where one has been and generally get a sense of Purpose and that Life is happening and we are Awake (sort of).

“Your task is not to seek love,but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it”.


plus it’s always good to smooth away the fears of the past and get ready for what’s next.


because tomorrow is Publication Day.


and that is        d e l i c i o u s.

(you saw that coming, non?)

while also being a Tiny bit scary.

people from the Past whom we have loved and lost (or feared and run away from) might Well be passing a W. H. Smith in an airport somewhere in the world or perhaps on Oxford Street (is there still a Smiths on Oxford Street? – ah, yes – there Is) Or (wearing snow boots currently) in Union Square and there are Those who might be Popping into Foyles (oh look, we’re 10 per cent off on Foyles.co.uk) and even some who could be in INDIA (having picked up a copy of Good Housekeeping, the British edition – sounds unlikely but it does happen) and asked the nice people at India Times to order them a copy (gosh – 881 rupees – that sounds like a Lot – is it?) and then, well, they might say:

blimey – sophia stuart……there’s a name I’ve not heard for a while.