“Oh – there’s no way it’s cancer”
RESPONSE: “Wow. I missed the 7 years you just spent at medical school.”
“I can’t see anything”
R: “Right. You can’t see it? Then I must be making it up”
“How’s your ‘lump’?”
R: “My tumor is still there. Thanks for asking”
“Is it serious?”
R: “Are you kidding? How would you feel with something growing inside your neck? Amused?”
And if another person says “oh I know it’ll be fine” I want to punch them because all I can hear is “why are you taking up space in my life and worrying and causing a fuss?” Grrrrrrr.
………………………………….OK, feeling so much better having got that pain in my neck (couldn’t resist) out ;)
(btw – the picture I took on my last road trip to Palm Springs – and, my friends, 8 weeks and counting until Tobias the tumor and I see that view again)
ps: here are my fav responses to my current medical situation:
“F*ck! That’s scary – you must be feeling so much right now! Tell me about it.” and then they give me a big hug and continue to stay in touch and come with me to appointments with physically or virtually.
I have to say I love knowing what to do when someone else I love goes through this – experience is a great teacher.